On this Mother’s Day I wish all the mother’s reading this post enjoy their special day. As a mother myself, on these special occasions, nothing is more important that spending time with our children. No matter the age, big or small… it is always a joy to spend a day without lifting a finger or having anywhere to go or somewhere to be.
To be honest, prior to my full-time SAHM status, I struggled with the idea. I worked in corporate accounting. It was a challenging and satisfying career that really challenged me as a professional and launched my career into overdrive. Within my first year, I was promoted three times. I was next up for promotion as the company Controller. Finance was never a profession or field I’d ever thought I’d find myself in and that is why it’s so awesome!
I worked full-time after having my first child. However, it wasn’t until having my second child it became quite the circus act, trying to manage two kids. One was being dropped off at pre-school at two years old in the full-time program. I had agreed to return to work earlier than normal, the baby was only 2 months old when I went back to work. So, in my office I had setup a compact bassinet. And next to it sat the baby swing. So, I dropped my pre-schooler off to daycare for ten hours a day. And then juggled, (*literally) a baby, feeding, diaper changes, lunch and work for six months.
So, I really felt like superwoman at that time. If I could do all this… I could do anything. I took a lot of pride in being able to do both, work and mom at the same time. Oh, boy was I wrong. I was in for a shock! Complete shock! After taking one kid to preschool and juggling general ledgers and diaper changes it really came to the point where the baby wasn’t such a cute, quiet baby anymore and a more permanent solution had to be thought of. My husband and I sat down, did some calculations and decided that the kids would be better off with me at home full-time, caring and nurturing their every need and boo boo. So, after much consideration and a lot of long conversations I submitted my notice. I knew it was what I needed to do, but it wasn’t what I truly wanted to do. I wanted to continue working. I wanted to be known as somebody, who did something.
Needless to say, I really struggled with my purpose after staying at home full-time to raise our babies. I went from being, Melissa with a title to just mom. School drop-offs, school pick-ups, diaper changing, cooking, cleaning and everything a stay-at-home mom duties entail… only to do it all over again the next day.
I felt like I didn’t have much to accomplish or work towards. I was just a mom. It wasn’t until after being saved by grace and receiving Jesus as my Lord and Savior that I truly admired women who gave their lives to raising their children. These women build up their households and their husbands with joy. I truly found the true joy and purpose of motherhood. And I am so forever grateful for having Jesus as my Lord because I cherish my motherhood more than ever before.
I have realized that my purpose as a mother is so very valuable and important. I would not choose to go back to work, no matter the pay, or benefits. I also realized I don’t need a special title or signature to follow my name. I have full satisfaction in raising my children, supporting my husband and building myself and my businesses.
Now, I say this to all you momma’s out there reading this post, you are worthy. Whether working or staying at home, I understand the struggle. And all we can do as mommies is the best possible job that we can. You are valuable and you have a purpose. Your children love you and cherish you and you’re doing amazing!! I hope you enjoy your special day surrounded by the arms of your babies!
She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husbandpraises her as well: “Many daughters have done noble things, but you surpass them all!”Proverbs 31:27-29